Your First Rideable: A Beginner's Sizing Guide

Choosing your first rideable is less about the numbers than it looks, because when you ride, you set the depth and the pace, taking it as slow and as deep as you like. This guide explains which measurements actually matter, how to pick a size you'll love and which creature makes the easiest first ride.

How do you choose the right size dildo as a beginner?

The easiest way to choose is to match a size you already know you enjoy, something similar to a toy you already love or a partner you're comfortable with. Go by insertable length and maximum width rather than total length, and look for numbers in a range you know suits you. If this is your very first toy of any kind, a comfortable place to start is around 6 inches (15cm) insertable with a slim girth.

Girth matters more than length for comfort. A slimmer toy is easier to take than a thick one of the same length, so if you are choosing between two, go narrower first. You can always work up.

Why length matters less when you ride

When you ride, length matters less than you might think, because your body sets how deep you go. On a strapped-down toy you sink down only as far as you want, at your own pace, there is no need to use its whole length unless you crave it. A longer creature simply gives you more room to explore; it never forces you to use all of it.

That is one of the quiet advantages of a rideable. Where a handheld toy can be pushed too far by accident, riding puts depth entirely under your own weight and control, so a slightly longer toy is far more forgiving than it sounds.

Insertable length, total length, and width

Three measurements describe a toy, and only two of them matter for fit:

• Insertable length — how much can actually go inside. This is the number to judge depth by.
• Maximum width (or circumference) — the widest point you will take. This decides how much stretch you feel and is the biggest factor in comfort.
• Total length — the whole toy including the base. Useful to know, but the base stays outside, so don't judge size by this number.

For a first toy, look for a modest insertable length and a slim-to-moderate width, then let firmness and lube do the rest.

What size should a beginner start with?

There is no single right size, the best first rideable is one that matches what you already enjoy. If you have a toy you love or a partner you are comfortable with, choose an insertable length and width in that same range. If this is your first toy of any kind, around 6 inches (15cm) insertable with a slim girth of roughly 4–4.5cm across is a comfortable, satisfying place to start, with room to explore.

When in doubt, go slightly smaller. It is easy to move up to a larger or more textured creature once you know what you enjoy, and a first toy that feels comfortable is one you will actually reach for.

Which rideable is best for beginners?

The Jordan is the best first rideable, a realistic shape at 15.2cm (6in) insertable with a gentle curve and no knot, flare, or heavy texture to work up to. It is the most approachable creature in the collection and the easiest introduction to riding hands-free.

If you want something with more character but still manageable, the Tenox is the next step: slim at the tip and built around texture rather than size, so it feels distinctly different without a big girth. The Tamlin (knot) and Buckland Steed (horse) are larger and more demanding, better once you have a first ride or two behind you and much easier in a softer firmness if you do start there.

Here is how the four compare, most approachable first:

Pair your size with the right firmness

For a first ride, pair a modest size with a softer firmness. An Extra Soft or Soft pour gives as your body opens to it, which makes any size easier and gentler to take, so a softer firmness effectively makes a toy feel more beginner-friendly than the same shape in Medium. Our firmness guide covers Extra Soft, Soft, and Medium in full.

Add plenty of water-based lube and a proper warm-up, and even a slightly larger creature becomes an easy ride. The step-by-step how to use a rideable dildo guide walks you through it.

Size is only half the choice

Size is only one part of picking a rideable, shape, texture, and firmness matter just as much, and riding puts depth under your control regardless. Choose a size you know suits you, pick a softer firmness and go for a shape that appeals to you and your first ride will feel far easier than a size chart alone suggests.

See all four creatures side by side in the complete rideable dildos guide.

Frequently asked questions

What size dildo should a beginner get?

Match a size you already know you enjoy, similar to a toy you love or a partner you are comfortable with. If it is your first toy of any kind, start around 6 inches (15cm) insertable with a slim girth. Judge size by insertable length and widest point, not total length and go smaller if unsure, girth matters more than length for comfort.

Does the total length of a dildo matter?

Not for fit. The total length includes the base, which stays outside the body, so judge size by the insertable length instead. When you ride, you also control how much of that length you take.

Which rideable dildo is best for beginners?

The Jordan, a realistic shape at 15.2cm insertable with a gentle curve and nothing to work up to. The Tenox is a good next step for texture without much size. The Tamlin and Buckland Steed are larger and better suited to experienced riders or a softer firmness.

Is length or girth more important for beginners?

Girth. A slimmer toy is easier to take than a thick one of the same length and it is the widest point you feel most. Choose a narrower toy first and work up if you want more.

Do I have to take the whole length of a rideable?

No. Because you ride by lowering yourself onto the toy, you take it at your own pace, as little or as deep as you like. A longer creature gives you more room to explore but never forces you to use all of it.

Find your first ride

New to rideables? Choose a size you're comfortable with, go softer and let your body set the pace. The Jordan is the easiest place to begin.

Shop the Jordan →, the most beginner-friendly rideable.

Compare all four in the complete rideable dildos guide