Rideable Dildo Firmness: Extra Soft vs Soft vs Medium
Every Odyssey Rideable is poured in three firmnesses and the one you choose changes the ride as much as the shape does. Softer gives and cushions; firmer holds its shape and feels more defined. This guide explains the difference and helps you pick the right one for your body and your creature.
What firmness options do rideable dildos come in?
Odyssey Rideables come in three firmness levels: Extra Soft, Soft and Medium. All three are poured from the same 100% platinum-cured silicone, so they are equally body-safe, the difference is only in how much the toy gives under pressure. Extra Soft yields the most, Medium holds its shape the most and Soft sits in between.
Firmness is chosen when you order, so you can match it to how you like to feel a toy and how much your body is used to.
What is the difference between Extra Soft, Soft and Medium?
The difference is how much the silicone compresses as you take it. A softer pour squashes and moulds to you; a firmer pour keeps its shape and presses back. Here is how the three compare:
| Firmness | How it feels | Best for |
|---|---|---|
| Extra Soft | Squishes and yields; the most forgiving; moulds to your body | Beginners, sensitive bodies and taking larger or textured shapes with less intensity |
| Soft | Gentle give with more presence than Extra Soft; the versatile middle | Most riders; a balance of comfort and definition |
| Medium | Holds its shape; the most defined pressure; presses back | Experienced riders who want to feel the knot, flare, ridges or texture at full intensity |
None of these is "better", they are different rides. Many people own the same creature in more than one firmness for different moods.
How does firmness affect the ride?
Firmness decides how a shape feels as you lower onto it. Because you are riding, sinking onto the toy with your body weight, a softer pour compresses as you take it, which eases the widest or most detailed parts. A firmer pour keeps its shape, so every feature presses back and you feel more of it.
That plays out differently for each kind of shape:
- A knot or flare (Tamlin, Buckland): softer eases the stretch at the widest point; firmer makes the stretch more pronounced.
- Texture (Tenox): softer lets the tendrils flex and roll for a gentler texture; firmer holds each ridge so the detail comes through more. Firmness sets how intense the texture feels.
- A smooth realistic shape (Jordan): softer feels yielding and cushioned; firmer feels more solid and lifelike underneath you.
Which firmness should you choose?
Choose your firmness by your experience and the shape you are riding. As a simple rule: the newer you are or the more demanding the shape, the softer you should go. Softer silicone gives as your body opens to it, which makes anything easier to take; firmer silicone rewards you once you already know the shape.
- New to rideables, or to this shape? Start with Extra Soft or Soft.
- Want a forgiving ride on a big or textured creature? Go softer, so the size or texture is there without the full intensity.
- Know the shape and want it at full strength? Choose Medium, so the knot, flare, ridges or curve press back clearly.
- Not sure? Soft is the safe middle-ground and suits most riders.
Firmness by creature
Each rideable has a firmness that shows it off best, and a softer option that makes it easier to take:
- Tamlin (knot): Soft to start, so the knot builds gently; Medium once you can take it, for a firmer stretch.
- Buckland Steed (horse): Extra Soft or Soft to manage the flare and length; Medium for experienced riders who want to feel the flare and medial ring at full intensity.
- Tenox (tentacle): Soft for a rolling, gentle texture; Medium to feel every ridge distinctly.
- Jordan (realistic): Soft for a lifelike, cushioned feel; Medium for something more solid and present.
For more on matching size and shape to your experience, see the complete rideable dildos guide, and our step-by-step how to use a rideable dildo guide.
Does firmness change how safe or durable the toy is?
No. All three firmnesses are poured from the same 100% platinum-cured silicone, so they are equally body-safe, non-porous and durable. Firmness only changes the feel, not the material, every option is phthalate-free, hypoallergenic and compatible with water-based lubricant. Softer toys are a little more flexible and firmer ones hold their shape, but all are made to last with proper care.
Firmness is part of the choice
Firmness is one of the things that makes rideables a flexible way to play. The same creature, on the same strap-down base, feels different in Extra Soft, Soft or Medium, so you can tune not just which shape you ride, but how it feels as you ride it. Pick the shape for the fantasy; pick the firmness for the feel.
Choose your creature and firmness in the complete rideable dildos guide.
Frequently asked questions
What firmness of dildo should I choose?
Choose by experience and shape: the newer you are, or the more demanding the shape, the softer you should go. Extra Soft and Soft are the most forgiving and best for beginners or larger shapes; Medium gives the most defined pressure for experienced riders. Soft suits most people.
What is the difference between Extra Soft, Soft, and Medium?
It is how much the silicone gives under pressure. Extra Soft squishes and moulds to you, Medium holds its shape and presses back, and Soft sits in between. All three are the same body-safe platinum silicone.
Is a softer or firmer dildo better for beginners?
Softer. Extra Soft or Soft silicone compresses as your body opens to it, which makes any shape, especially a knot, flare or texture, easier and gentler to take.
Does firmer silicone feel more intense?
Yes. A firmer pour holds its shape, so knots, flares, ridges and texture press back and you feel more of them, while a softer pour eases them. Firmness sets the intensity; the shape stays the same.
Are all firmnesses equally body-safe?
Yes. Extra Soft, Soft and Medium are all poured from 100% platinum-cured silicone, non-porous, phthalate-free and hypoallergenic. Firmness changes only the feel, not the safety or durability.
Choose your firmness
Every Odyssey Rideable comes in Extra Soft, Soft or Medium, the same creature, tuned to the feel you want. Softer to ease in, firmer for a more intense ride.
Browse the Rideables collection → to choose your creature and firmness.
New to riding? Read how to use a rideable dildo
